It's a real thing, isn't it? I was definitely raised to be a smart-girl iconoclast, and I still struggle between behaving gender-appropriately and behaving like myself. It makes me cringe when I think about how much I've learned to keep quiet in class or put a "maybe" before every opinion. Rodney might be a pain in the ass, but I admire his ability to be a painstakingly honest pain in the ass. : )

A (male) professor of mine once said: the conflict women endure between being a person and being a visual spectacle is probably the most serious psychological crisis in our culture.

But you know, one of the things that has helped me navigate all this cultural weirdness is that my parents have always know it was out there and thought about it and talked about it, even (especially) when there was nothing they could do to change it. That does make a difference!