Um, semi-reclaimed? As in, I'd call my gay friend a pouf ('poof'? not sure) in an affectionate, teasing way, but I wouldn't expect to hear it on the BBC anytime soon. And even less so for dyke. I do remember a lesbian friend in about 96/97 wearing a t-shirt that had some sort of clever play on words linking 'dyke' with Star Wars... I can't remember what it was for the life of me, but it was amusing. She wore it intending to shock, though.

Also, we don't use 'queer' here, just 'gay'.

Happy writing - what's the fandom?