Seriously: aliens made them do it is my working metaphor. There are so many situations where someone's individual choice is so bound around by choices they don't get to make that it's an open question whether their choice can be called free. Someone can be happy with the decisions they've made, but it still sucks not to have all the options.

Well, the vid was my Mommy-track rant, and I'm really happy to see all the discussion happening here! (and I keep pausing to do my "I got my point across! I got my point across!" dance.) Thanks for commenting!