I know exactly what you mean. My wife is all over Willow/Tara, because I may or may not have tragically resembled Tara in a physical and possibly wardrobe kind of way when we met, when I was 18. She was so upset when they killed Tara she wouldn't watch Firefly with me unless I bootlegged it in some way because she didn't want Joss get a single dollar from her viewership ever again. But I prefer Willow with Kennedy, because, of course, I always saw myself in Willow and my wife is feisty like Kennedy. *headdesk*

But ... I swear I never respected anyone's personhood or engaged in handholding. And I would rather have been stabbed than discuss my feelings!!!