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Tara thoughts, and then vid rec.
So I've been rewatching a bit of BtVS season 5 and 6, and I still really struggle with the whole Willow/Tara thing. It's not Amber Benson's fault - she's a pretty girl with a great lopsided smile, and I haven't seen her in anything else, but I think she could have done a lot more than "meek" if the writing and direction had taken her anywhere but meek. But Tara's so meek! And she and Willow are almost never in the same frame, which, I understand that BtVS was breaking new ground and trying to be kind of proper about it, but is it necessary for Willow to always be sitting like five feet away looking like she's kind of scared Tara might try to hold her hand? Also, we all know that Amber Benson was a perfectly normal, healthy, one might even say svelte-for-a-normal-human weight on Buffy, so is it really necessary for the wardrobe department to go with "Renfaire-inspired tent" while dressing her? Willow's witchypoo outfits are no great shakes either, but at least they fit her.
(Also, I kind of feel like where lots of Media Lesbians are, like, projections of misogynistic and patriarchal ideas of "lesbians", Willow and Tara seem like kind of Sensitive New-Age Male projections of "lesbians": they hold hands - with respect! for each other's personhood! - and then have lots of polite conversations about their feelings!
All that aside! I have to jump on the bandwagon (late!) by recommending the vid Nineteen by![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
ryty, which is a Willow/Tara vid that takes a lot of that footage-that-sapote-has-opinions-on and makes it into a vid that makes me feel like I'm fourteen years old and have just been bowled over by my first big girlcrush.
(Also, I kind of feel like where lots of Media Lesbians are, like, projections of misogynistic and patriarchal ideas of "lesbians", Willow and Tara seem like kind of Sensitive New-Age Male projections of "lesbians": they hold hands - with respect! for each other's personhood! - and then have lots of polite conversations about their feelings!
All that aside! I have to jump on the bandwagon (late!) by recommending the vid Nineteen by
ryty, which is a Willow/Tara vid that takes a lot of that footage-that-sapote-has-opinions-on and makes it into a vid that makes me feel like I'm fourteen years old and have just been bowled over by my first big girlcrush.
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And I have to laugh at your description of Tara & Willow as SNAG lesbians - I made comments recently (while rewatching Firefly) that while Joss may be a great big feminist I'd appreciate it more if he got over the whole girl-on-girl action and gave us a couple of boys instead. :-)
Edited to correct the coding one should never do when you've only been awake for 40 mins.
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I second that.
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It's true about the lack of boy pairings, isn't it? The best he gave us was Angel/Spike, and that was all subtext.
And I am sorry you are still sickly! Have you done the doctor thing, or are you waiting it out?
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But ... I swear I never respected anyone's personhood or engaged in handholding. And I would rather have been stabbed than discuss my feelings!!!
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Hee, I promise I am not accusing you of emotionally sensitive handholding? I promise I'm not trying to Essentialize Your Experiences! It's just, like, in season 4/ early 5, that's where it stops as far as developing Willow and Tara's relationship. I feel like.
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Probably true in my experience.
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